Day 568

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Indulge me again.  Here is the recap of tonight’s season finale of ABC’s Secret Millionaire.

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On tonight’s season finale episode of ABC’s The Secret Millionaire, financial success entrepreneur Ali Brown joins the ranks of Gary and Diane Heavin, Marc Paskin, John Ferber, Dani Johnson, and James Malinchak.

Ali didn’t take a long journey across the country.  Instead, she went just down the street from her California home.  She’s going to Venice Beach.

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Ali Brown is 38 and from Marina Del Rey and is CEO of Ali International.  She teaches women to start profitable businesses.  Her house on the beach is pretty snazzy.

Ali says she has a hard time slowing down, so the coming week will certainly be a test for her.  She had a hard time leaving her cell phone behind, but she did.

The taxi took her just down the street — 2 miles away to Venice Beach…home to hundreds of homeless.  Ali wasn’t too thrilled with the “funky” smell of her apartment, and she looked visibly distressed upon entering the apartment.

$55.25/week is all she had to buy food for the week.

Again, visibly distressed.

Harvest Home, with director Jennifer Jensen, was the first charity.  It offers shelter for pregnant homeless women.  Jensen says the focus is on jobs and emotional stability.  Jensen’s personal journey inspired her to start the home.

Ali helped out with some clothes sorting and got to know tenant Erica.  She said that she has been helped immensely by Harvest Home.  At dinner that night, Ali met the rest of the women and got some conversation and ‘baby stares’…Later, she was very emotional talking about her supportive family.

I just want to take a few seconds to thank my supportive family…Thank you supportive family!

Interestingly, Ali stated that the women she normally helps have a sense of belief in themselves, and that Harvest Home helped to provide that for others.

I think that’s a great thing.  I think that’s an underrated thing.  We can give shelter and monetary support, but unless we also marry that with some emotional support that can help build self-esteem, we’re only getting part of the pie.

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Ali met two women who have to live in their van.  Then, she went on a tour of the RVs where many of the homeless live.  Some men recommended the St. Joseph Center and the Bread and Roses kitchen.

Tiana, the volunteer coordinator, met Ali at the door.

The narrator said that Bread and Roses is the only place of its kind in California, where the homeless can make reservations and eat restaurant-style.

Tiana stated that the kitchen serves about 150 people per day.

Ali spent the day serving the customers and said that she really enjoyed it.  One diner said, “They treat you like people.”

Indeed.

By the end of her second day, Ali seemed a little more comfortable and ready to help some more.

I guess dignity is like that — once we give it, we want to give more.

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Day three saw Ali Brown back on the streets.  She headed to Common Ground — a bicycle-based outreach group.  They offer food, medical treatment, and counseling for youth in Venice Beach.

Ali got on the bike and headed for the beach.

Volunteer “Dre” credits his current positive life to Common Ground and their efforts.  His early story is a typical drug cycle — what isn’t typical is his stop…meeting “Courtney” from Common Ground and hearing a truth and finding support.

Now, he want to be “not selfish” and to help others.  Paying it forward.

That night, Ali headed to the boardwalk.  She said it made her look at homelessness in “a whole new way.”

On day four, she had roughly $17 left.  Still, she went to Cafe Collage for a pick-me-up.  She found a flyer for a charity that helps the chronically ill “feel beautiful again.”

She went to meet Alicia and Wendy of the Beauty Bus.

The cousins lost a cousin at 28 to a degenerative disease, and while that battle was going on, Alicia and Wendy decided to help their cousin by providing her with beauty to make her feel good…and that launched the foundation.

There is a beauty service for the patient and their caregiver when the Beauty Bus goes on a call.

I like that they include the caregiver, too.

Robbie provided a manicure on behalf of the Beauty Bus for Harry and his caregiver.

Harry has ALS (Lou Gehrig’s disease) and his niece Mary cares for him.  Ali sat with Harry and Mary while they received a treatment.

The beauty treatment is certainly not only about “beauty.”  Again, there’s that word ‘dignity,’ but there’s also a sense of pride and human interaction.  We’re more than the sum of our appearances, but we’re also profoundly our sense of self.

Who can say which parts are the most important?

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Day five saw a return to Harvest Home.  Jen Jensen said the organization is about “everyday people” who support them…with no government funding.

Ali was assigned to take care of one of the babies while the mother was doing some homework, as part of Harvest Home’s education program for expectant mothers.  One of the boarders told an incredible story of finding Harvest Home just as her motel money was running out.

Literally, an answer to a prayer.

In a way, I suppose prayers are a lot like fishing lines…we cast them out in hope and, quite often, we are surprised at the nibbles we get.

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On her last day, Ali Brown had to decide who would receive what.  She sat at her table for the last time to write checks.

She made her way to the Beauty Bus to give away her first check for $10,000.  The gift was clearly appreciated, and Ali said she was happy to help a new business grow.

Common Ground was next up, and they received a $30,000 check.  Dre had a look of shock on his face, in the best sense.  Ali said that she was touched by the stories of youth who have nobody in their lives.

Did you hear that?  There are people in the world who have nobody in their lives to encourage them and make them feel like they can be somebody.  Make someone feel like somebody today.  And tomorrow.  And the day after.  It can be anyone.

And if you feel rejected?  Keep trying.  With the same person, a new person, anyone.

Dre put it best, “I was able to break the cycle for myself, but a lot of them can’t.”  They could, but not until someone cares.

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The next stop was Bread and Roses where Ali gave $10,000.  That’s a lot of bread.

Literally.

The final stop was Harvest Home.  Ali told Jen Jensen how much she loved her experience there and, of course, there were tears.  Ali said the experience had a significant impact on her.

Ali gave Harvest Home a check for $50,000…and it was Jensen’s turn to cry.  Ali also got a chance to tell the other women in the home about the donation and to receive their hugs.

That’s cool.

“Someone out there really cares about what we’re doing,” Jensen said.

Validation is nice in these non-profit arenas, as it can breathe new life into something that can be so emotionally difficult.  There are great humanitarian rewards, yes, but it also takes a little cash to keep those rewards flowing.

Thanks Secret Millionaire for giving a little back in a world that often takes so much.

Day 561

Indulge me.

Below is my post from another site regarding tonight’s Secret Millionaire on ABC, featuring Gary and Diane Heavin.

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Tonight is Houston, Texas and Gary and Diane Heavin.

Thank you to those who have come to read and comment already…I am just now settling in to watch, but from what I’ve read, it was an impressive show.

Follow along with me as I watch…away we go!!!

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Gary and Diane Heavin started a fitness empire together.  Diane c0-founded Curves International with her husband.

Two billion in revenue?  Not bad!  Congrats you two.

They have ranches in Texas and Australia and it seems like they have a nice life.  Diane says they take their wealth “seriously” and Gary says it’s important to give back to people.

Love it.  That’s why Curves is a success, in case you were wondering.

Diane said she was a bit anxious, and Gary agreed.  After the emotional goodbye with their daughter, the Heavins put their wealthy trappings on a table and took off for Houston on their private jet…Gary’s hometown.

20% of residents live in poverty and there’s a high crime rate…all around a cosmopolitan city that boasts a rich culture.

The area, the Third Ward, looked incredibly poor.  A median $5,500 household income doesn’t leave much for luxury…or simple living…or any living at all.  For six days, this would be the Heavins’s domain.

Diane was not impressed with the filth in the house.  In fact, she said, “it feels condemned.”

Their money?  Roughly $6.50 per person, per day…or $90.75 total for the week for both of them.  “Hard to understand,” Diane said…indeed.

A van in a grocery store said, “No More Victims” and it was a children’s charity.  This piqued Diane’s interest…I’m guessing a visit is in order.

On day two, the search for charities began.  No More Victims was first.  It is a charity for children whose parents are currently in jail or recently released.

Marilyn “Mamma G.” Gambrel was the representative, and the Heavin’s  went out on a ride-along with her.

“Brenda,” a woman who benefits from the program, said she is grateful for the group — counseling, support…y’know, things people need to get a new start when a new start is hard to find.

“Family for life.”  Nice.

Gary told the camera he remembers when he was little and growing up near this area…and that he was glad to be back to help.

No More Victims helps the community get back on track by encouraging children to process emotions through art instead of violence.  As a therapist, I understand the value of positive processing and encouraging people to be creative to be empowered.  It takes patience and support, but is there any more worthwhile task?  Especially with children.

Diane said the day was an “emotional rollercoaster,” and admitted the day was tough.

I can imagine.

Or, maybe I can’t.

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On day three, the search for people making a difference continued.  Autism at The Sean Ashley House was up next.

Gary took a stroll down memory lane, remembering his childhood home and experiences.  It’s nice that he can give back to quickly.

The founder founded the House for her grandson who was born autistic.  She wanted a place he could go if something ever happened to her.  A beautiful motivation.

Diane and Gary took the day to volunteer.  One in 100 children are affected by autism, so the need for these homes is paramount.  The day program at The Sean Ashley House is the only one in the state.

No government funds.

But a lot of need.

Gary seemed particularly affected by his experience.  Gary said he was uncomfortable, because it was so difficult to communicate.  Gary’s grandson is autistic and Gary was open about his experience with his grandson.

Gary, thank you for being honest on national television.  I’m sure a lot of folks share your point of view when it comes to folks with special needs, and perhaps we all need a little more education on autism.  Thanks for starting the dialogue.

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Day four brought more searching…and peanut butter and jelly.  They headed to a health and fitness place called The Lazarus House.  Trainer Boyd came up to greet them.  They are a non-profit to service folks with muscle wasting diseases (cancer, HIV, MS).  The group also provides support groups.  The goal?  To buy the house.

This is the only program of its kind in Houston.  One client, Charlie, stated that she is “doing something for myself” to build muscle and get more energy.  And when that positive attitude comes into play, is there anything we can’t do?  And when you hear Charlie’s story, you know how precious a positive attitude can be.

Diane and Charlie had a conversation about HIV and what it means to live with a disease that is often misunderstood.  Charlie stated that she has reduced her pills from 20 to 2 just in the time she’s been working out at The Lazarus House.  Diane admitted she had “preconceived ideas” about HIV and said that she learned something from being with Charlie…that people are people no matter what “disease” they carry.

In the end, that makes no difference whatsoever.

And really, isn’t it only our humanity that makes us human?

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The Heavin’s started day five at No More Victims.  They sat in with Momma G. on a counseling session for kids.  There was food, smiles, tears, and seriousness…but most importantly, there was dialogue.

Dialogue.

Speaking.

Processing.

Sharing.

The kids shared what they were really feeling about family and life, and it was clearly not easy, but it was happening…and if we can get people to talk, we can get them to heal.

A peer reminded the kids, “We’re here for each other.”  People tell us all kinds of noise about how we’ll never be anything or how we’ll never succeed…and it’s just noise.  We aren’t statistics.  We are opportunities.  And we need people to remind us of that so that we can live it.

At The Sean Ashley House, it was a day of horseback riding.  According to the show, equine therapy has shown some success in managing autism.  Gary admitted again that he was out of his comfort zone, but he then said that when he started to really pay attention and tune in, the communications began.  He said it was “joyful.”

The joy of connection.  It’s always available with a smile or a word.

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Finally, the day of giving arrived.  Diane and Gary admitted the folks they’ve met were “remarkable,” with “great hearts.”

The Lazarus House was the first stop.  Diane told Boyd she admired his heart and passion and she also thanked Charlie.  The Heavin’s revealed themselves as the Curves founders.

Then, they presented The Lazarus House with a check for $100,000.  Boyd was speechless…but he did manage a “thank you!”

No More Victims was next.  The Heavins sat down with Momma G and made the big reveal.  They presented a check for $50,000.  Again, not much talking, but a lot of tears and smiles.

Gary then gave something to Warren, the peer support.  $10,000.  The look on his face was priceless.

We don’t work in non-profits because we want millions.  We work in it to be of service.  And when good things come to folks like Warren at No More Victims, well, that is something behind which we can all rally.

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The Heavin’s last stop was The Sean Ashley House for autism.  They presented The Sean Ashley House with a $250,000 check.

But when Diane presented client Justin with a pair of sunglasses, well, that was probably the biggest smile of all…

Isn’t that good perspective for all of us regarding giving?

Come to think of it, maybe that’s good perspective for everything in life…all the time.

Tonight is Houston, Texas and Gary and Diane Heavin.

Thank you to those who have come to read and comment already…I am just now settling in to watch, but from what I’ve read, it was an impressive show.

Follow along with me as I watch…away we go!!!

———————-

Gary and Diane Heavin started a fitness empire together.  Diane c0-founded Curves International with her husband.

Two billion in revenue?  Not bad!  Congrats you two.

They have ranches in Texas and Australia and it seems like they have a nice life.  Diane says they take their wealth “seriously” and Gary says it’s important to give back to people.

Love it.  That’s why Curves is a success, in case you were wondering.

Diane said she was a bit anxious, and Gary agreed.  After the emotional goodbye with their daughter, the Heavins put their wealthy trappings on a table and took off for Houston on their private jet…Gary’s hometown.

20% of residents live in poverty and there’s a high crime rate…all around a cosmopolitan city that boasts a rich culture.

The area, the Third Ward, looked incredibly poor.  A median $5,500 household income doesn’t leave much for luxury…or simple living…or any living at all.  For six days, this would be the Heavins’s domain.

Diane was not impressed with the filth in the house.  In fact, she said, “it feels condemned.”

Their money?  Roughly $6.50 per person, per day…or $90.75 total for the week for both of them.  “Hard to understand,” Diane said…indeed.

A van in a grocery store said, “No More Victims” and it was a children’s charity.  This piqued Diane’s interest…I’m guessing a visit is in order.

On day two, the search for charities began.  No More Victims was first.  It is a charity for children whose parents are currently in jail or recently released.

Marilyn “Mamma G.” Gambrel was the representative, and the Heavin’s  went out on a ride-along with her.

“Brenda,” a woman who benefits from the program, said she is grateful for the group — counseling, support…y’know, things people need to get a new start when a new start is hard to find.

“Family for life.”  Nice.

Gary told the camera he remembers when he was little and growing up near this area…and that he was glad to be back to help.

No More Victims helps the community get back on track by encouraging children to process emotions through art instead of violence.  As a therapist, I understand the value of positive processing and encouraging people to be creative to be empowered.  It takes patience and support, but is there any more worthwhile task?  Especially with children.

Diane said the day was an “emotional rollercoaster,” and admitted the day was tough.

I can imagine.

Or, maybe I can’t.

———————-

On day three, the search for people making a difference continued.  Autism at The Sean Ashley House was up next.

Gary took a stroll down memory lane, remembering his childhood home and experiences.  It’s nice that he can give back to quickly.

The founder founded the House for her grandson who was born autistic.  She wanted a place he could go if something ever happened to her.  A beautiful motivation.

Diane and Gary took the day to volunteer.  One in 100 children are affected by autism, so the need for these homes is paramount.  The day program at The Sean Ashley House is the only one in the state.

No government funds.

But a lot of need.

Gary seemed particularly affected by his experience.  Gary said he was uncomfortable, because it was so difficult to communicate.  Gary’s grandson is autistic and Gary was open about his experience with his grandson.

Gary, thank you for being honest on national television.  I’m sure a lot of folks share your point of view when it comes to folks with special needs, and perhaps we all need a little more education on autism.  Thanks for starting the dialogue.

———————-

Day four brought more searching…and peanut butter and jelly.  They headed to a health and fitness place called The Lazarus House.  Trainer Boyd came up to greet them.  They are a non-profit to service folks with muscle wasting diseases (cancer, HIV, MS).  The group also provides support groups.  The goal?  To buy the house.

This is the only program of its kind in Houston.  One client, Charlie, stated that she is “doing something for myself” to build muscle and get more energy.  And when that positive attitude comes into play, is there anything we can’t do?  And when you hear Charlie’s story, you know how precious a positive attitude can be.

Diane and Charlie had a conversation about HIV and what it means to live with a disease that is often misunderstood.  Charlie stated that she has reduced her pills from 20 to 2 just in the time she’s been working out at The Lazarus House.  Diane admitted she had “preconceived ideas” about HIV and said that she learned something from being with Charlie…that people are people no matter what “disease” they carry.

In the end, that makes no difference whatsoever.

And really, isn’t it only our humanity that makes us human?

———————-

The Heavin’s started day five at No More Victims.  They sat in with Momma G. on a counseling session for kids.  There was food, smiles, tears, and seriousness…but most importantly, there was dialogue.

Dialogue.

Speaking.

Processing.

Sharing.

The kids shared what they were really feeling about family and life, and it was clearly not easy, but it was happening…and if we can get people to talk, we can get them to heal.

A peer reminded the kids, “We’re here for each other.”  People tell us all kinds of noise about how we’ll never be anything or how we’ll never succeed…and it’s just noise.  We aren’t statistics.  We are opportunities.  And we need people to remind us of that so that we can live it.

At The Sean Ashley House, it was a day of horseback riding.  According to the show, equine therapy has shown some success in managing autism.  Gary admitted again that he was out of his comfort zone, but he then said that when he started to really pay attention and tune in, the communications began.  He said it was “joyful.”

The joy of connection.  It’s always available with a smile or a word.

———————-

Finally, the day of giving arrived.  Diane and Gary admitted the folks they’ve met were “remarkable,” with “great hearts.”

The Lazarus House was the first stop.  Diane told Boyd she admired his heart and passion and she also thanked Charlie.  The Heavin’s revealed themselves as the Curves founders.

Then, they presented The Lazarus House with a check for $100,000.  Boyd was speechless…but he did manage a “thank you!”

No More Victims was next.  The Heavins sat down with Momma G and made the big reveal.  They presented a check for $50,000.  Again, not much talking, but a lot of tears and smiles.

Gary then gave something to Warren, the peer support.  $10,000.  The look on his face was priceless.

We don’t work in non-profits because we want millions.  We work in it to be of service.  And when good things come to folks like Warren at No More Victims, well, that is something behind which we can all rally.

———————-

The Heavin’s last stop was The Sean Ashley House for autism.  They presented The Sean Ashley House with a $250,000 check.

But when Diane presented client Justin with a pair of sunglasses, well, that was probably the biggest smile of all…

Isn’t that good perspective for all of us regarding giving?

Come to think of it, maybe that’s good perspective for everything in life…all the time.